Last year about this time I was in the thick of the college application craziness with my son. It seemed that there was little else on the minds of High School Seniors and their parents at his school. Despite the advice from the college counselors, the looming question “How’s the application process going?” weaved it’s snarky little head into just about every conversation. I have to admit while I tried, I too found myself obsessed with the whole college craze. I was consumed with the mystery of it all. Where will he be one year from now? How will this next phase in his educational life shape him. Who will he become? Will he get into the school he wants to get into? Do I ask him about his essay or let him figure it out on his own? Do I push him to get his applications in early or step completely out of the process all together? How can I help support him in this whole process? And I was both scared and excited for him to figure it all out. For the next nine months I watched him, his friends and mine navigate this sometimes harrowing journey. For some it was easeful but for many it was filled with stress, confusion and anxiety. In the end everyone found their way into a school of course. Some kids were thrilled with their choice and others not so much.
While my son also got into a “great” school something was just not clicking for him. After the dust settled from the ongoing senior celebrations, he soon realized that he wasn’t quite ready to jump back into academia and wanted and needed a break. He did not have clarity, was not feeling excited and was concerned about balancing his lack of motivation with his new found freedom at college. He decided that he would like to defer his enrollment and take a gap year before heading to college.
While going right to college after High School is certainly a popular and traditional path, it may not be the right decision for all our kids. Knowing what the next right steps are for each our children is not easy. We are all trying to get it right but the ONE thing I teach my clients is that there is no one size fits all solution when parenting. The greatest gift we can give our kids as they transition out on their own is our ability to listen closely to them, learn about them and lead them to their own answers.
Knowing how to listen to the deepest part of ourselves, and tune into our intuition is a learned skill.
Learning to listen from presence is your greatest gift to your children during life’s big transitions.
I’d love for you to join me and other parents on a journey to learn how to drop into presence with ease, get out of your own fears so you can truly hear what your kid needs and teach them how to navigate decisions with confidence and reduce the stress and anxiety that interferes with their success.
In just 4 short weeks you will learn how to:
Join me and together let's give our kids the greatest gift we have - our attention.
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