Trick or Treat

October 26, 2017

The greatest gift we can give ourselves and our kids is our presence.  The key is knowing when we are actually present and fully available to those we love.  

Often we trick ourselves thinking we are present. This is easy to do. With busy lives, cell phones, bills to pay, work to attend to, and our own attention being hijacked by our imagination, thoughts and feelings all over the place it can be challenging to create space to be here now with our full attention and awareness.

One thing I know for sure is that fear can pull me out of presence faster than anything.  

Fear or lack can show up in so many forms:

  • not enough time
  • I should’ve done….
  • I need more….
  • I don’t know the answer
  • they shouldn’t feel …….

And when my kids come to me stressed, I can easily drop into fear wanting to ‘help' them.  

Not to long ago my daughter was caught up in a three way drama at school.  When I learned about it from another mom, I found myself scared, angry and judgmental.  My daughter was being bullied and I was not going to stand for it.

From my fear, anger and sadness I had so many plans…I would call the school, I would get the other parents together to help our kids solve this problem, I would tell my daughter EXACTLY how to handle it, I would plan playdates with other girls.  My control freak was on FIRE. IT was a good thing she was at school this whole time.

After about an hour, I began to calm down and welcome all that was going on in ME.  All my fears.  I quickly realized what I was doing and how I was about to disempower my daughter. I relaxed into being with it all and let go of my need to control any of it.  My job is not to fix her or her perceived problems, my job is to stand by her, witness her and love her while she learns to navigate life and it’s inevitable ups and downs.  This was her opportunity to learn.  And clearly mine too.  

When she came home we talked. I calmly asked her to share with me what was going on.  She shared, we talked and I learned about her.  And I realized she is brilliant, beautiful and powerful.  I had such love and respect for her courage and how she handled herself and in that moment I realized she is just fine.  And all I need to do is listen, learn and lead her back to herself again and again…. until she no longer needs me too.

And the most important lesson I learned that day?  When I LEARN to be present I TREAT the people I love will my full presence. And that is the greatest gift there is.

Developing awareness of our own emotional reactivity in the face of our kids stress is challenging. However, when we get present to what is occurring in us first, we are better equipped to support our kids.  With so little time and so much to say, there is no time like the present.

Learning to listen from presence is your greatest gift to your children during life’s big transitions.

Knowing how to get present and listen in stressful times is a learned skill.

I’d love for you to join me and other parents on a journey to learn how to drop into presence with ease, get out of your own fears so you can truly hear what your kid needs and teach them how to navigate the stress and anxiety that interferes with their success.

In just 4 short weeks you will learn how to:

  • Cultivate a quick mindfulness practice to bring you to presence in 30 seconds or less
  • Listen so your child feels seen and heard
  • Shift from conflict to connection
  • Help your student learn to avoid the drama that gets in the way of their success
  • Help your child find success in their stress
  • Learn to listen between the lines
  • Know when to step in and when to let go
  • Enrich, deepen and build trust in your relationship  


Join me and together let's give our kids the greatest gift we have - our attention.

Annmarie Chereso
Founder, BringIt! Home

Here is one thing I know for sure. Practice does not make us perfect.But it certainly helps to smooth out the rough edges. The most important lesson I have learned in my crazy mixed up life is that practice is all there is and I am devoted to it. And I’d like to share it with you.

Let’s face it, life can feel out of control and crazy much of the time. My life is no exception. As a single working mother of three children, I have come to realize that my personal peace and emotional well being are the key for being a good parent, a good friend, a good partner and coach and for leading my happiest, most fulfilling and emotionally satisfying life.  My 22-year practice of yoga, meditation, and mindfulness has taught me how to be present, conscious and aware of how to cultivate this personal well being.

I have been fortunate to study with many of the great wellness leaders of our time. In addition to being a certified Martha Beck life coach, I received my training and certification to teach mindfulness through Mindful Schools and the Mindful Education Institute.  I have had the honor and privilege to study under inspiring leaders in the field of Contemplative Practices such as Jack Kornfield, Susan Kaiser Greenland, Linda Lantieri, Daniel Rechstaffen and many other pioneers in the field of mindfulness and education.  

I have been trained by prestigious mindfulness industry leaders including John Kabat Zinn, Professor of Medicine Emeritus and founding director of the Stress Reduction Clinic and the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of Massachusetts Medical School.

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